Wholeness is a state of completeness, in which you are satisfied and complete in yourself not needing another to make you happy. Its a state of loving God because you are so fill of His love also, so you can graciously give and receive love. We cannot give what we have not received. Marriages today are filled with immature people walking in the flesh. Successful marriages happen when both parties can submit to love and to one another to walk in the love of Christ within them already.